Iki kibazo ushobora kukibazaho cyane ukurikije ibyakubayeho, ibyo ugenda ubona mu buzima bwawe bwa buri munsi. Ariko uteze amatwi indirimbo D’Amour ou d’Amitie y’umuririmbyikazi w’umunyakanada Celine Dion ushobora kurushaho kubyibaza.
Reka nkureke uyisome, mbashije kuyibona mu ndimi ebyiri :Icyongereza n’Igifaransa ariko turagerageza kugenda tuyigarukaho no mu Kinyarwanda kugira ngo twese turusheho kuyisobanukirwa.
“Il pense a moi, je le vois je le sens je le sais
Et son sourire me ment pas quand il vient me chercher
Il aime bien me parler des choses qu’il a vues
Du chemin qu’il a fait et de tous ses projets
He thinks of me, I see it I feel it I know it
And his smile doesn’t lie when he comes to pick me up
He likes to talk to me about the things he saw
About the progress he made and of all his projects
Je crois pourtant qu’il est seul et qu’il voit d’autres filles
Je ne sais pas ce qu’elles veulent ni les phrases qu’il dit
Je ne sais pas ou je suis quelque part dans sa vie
Si je compte aujourd’hui plus qu’une autre pour lui
I believe however that he’s alone and that he hangs out with other girls
I don’t know what they want nor the sentences he says
I don’t know where I am somewhere in his life
If I count more than the others for him today
Il est si pres de moi pourtant je ne sais pas comment l’aimer
Lui seul peut decider qu’on se parle d’amour ou d’amitie
Moi je l’aime et je peux lui offrir ma vie
Meme s’il ne veut pas de ma vie
He is so close to me yet I don’t know how to love him
Only him can decide if we talk about love or about friendship
I love him and I want to offer him my life
Even if he doesn’t want my life
Je rêve de ses bras oui mais je ne sais pas comment l’aimer
Il a l’air d’hesiter entre une histoire d’amour ou d’amitie
Et je suis comme une ile en plein ocean
On dirait que mon coeur est trop grand
I dream of his arms but I don’t know how to love him
He seems to hesitate between a love story or a friendship story
And I’m like an island in the middle of the ocean
It seems my heart is too big
Rien a lui dire il sait bien que j’ai tout a donner
Rien qu’a sourire a l’attendre a vouloir le gagner
Mais qu’elles sont tristes les nuits le temps me parait long
Et je n’ai pas appris a me passer de lui
Nothing to tell him he knows well that I have all to give
Only to smile waiting for him wanting to have him
But they’re sad those nights and the time seems long
And I hadn’t learn to live without him
Il est si pres de moi pourtant je ne sais pas comment l’aimer
Lui seul peut decider qu’on se parle d’amour ou d’amitie
Moi je l’aime et je peux lui offrir ma vie
Meme s’il ne veut pas de ma vie
He is so close to me yet I don’t know how to love him
Only him can decide if we talk about love or about friendship
I love him and I want to offer him my life
Even if he doesn’t want my life
Je rêve de ses bras oui mais je ne sais pas comment l’aimer
Il a l’air d’hesiter entre une histoire d’amour ou d’amitie
Et je suis comme une ile en plein ocean
On dirait que mon coeur est trop grand
I dream of his arms but I don’t know how to love him
He seems to hesitate between a love story or a friendship story
And I’m like an island in the middle of the ocean
It seems my heart is too big”
Mwisomeye ku babasha kumva izo ndimi ebyiri, harabanza amagambo y’igifaransa hagakurikiraho ubusobanuro bwayo mu cyongereza. Naho kubatabashije kubyumva neza ni inkuru y’umukobwa wari ufite inshuti ye magara ariko kandi akumva hejuru y’urwo ‘rukundo’ rwa kivandimwe (ubwo bucuti) bafitanye byarushaho kuba byiza hiyongereyeho n’urundi rudasanzwe, uru rutuma wifuza ko mwabana akaramata, mwabishobora mukabyarana, mugasazana,...
Ati: “Ari hafi yanjye ariko sinzi uko nakora ngo mwereke urukundo, we wenyine ni we ushobora gufata icyemezo ko tuganira urukundo cyangwa ubucuti. Njye ndamukunda kandi nshaka kumuharira ubuzima bwanjye n’ubwo we mbona atabishaka”
Ese inshuti nyanshuti (best friends/ meilleurs amis) bashobora gukundana uru rukundo?
Ibi ntabwo tubivugaho byinshi cyane cyane ko byaba byiza cyane abakunzi ndeste n’abasomyi www.twimenye.blogspot.com, bafashe umwanya bagasubiza iki kibazo bagasa n’abagitanzeho ubuhamya ku bibabaho mu buzima bwabo bwa buri munsi, kubyo babona kuri bagenzi babo,...
Naho ubundi hano hari abakunzi b’Igitondo bagiye bagira icyo babivugaho ubwo namwe muze kutubwira:
Guy: “Njyewe rwose ndahamya cyane ko ibi bishoboka kuko nari mfite umukobwa w’inshuti yanjye twamenyanye kuva muri primaire, ubu narangije Kaminuza umwaka ushize, gusa byageze aho birananira ndabimubwira, mbabazwa n’uko atabyakiriye neza kuko yagiye anyicaho gahoro gahoro nshiduka byararangiye Bibaho ariko akenshi abakobwa ntibabikunda!”
Marthe: “Nanjye nziko iki kintu kibaho, ariko kenshi usanga buri wese agira ubwoba bwo kubwira undi icyo amutekerezaho bikarangira bamugutwaye. Ko bibabaza ra??!!!”
Ngabo: “Njyewe ntekereza ko binabaye mwaba mutatiriye igihango kuko urukundo rw’aba meilleurs amis ntabwo rugera aho,... ubwo icyo gihe muba mwarengereye”
Murabyumva rero uko abantu batandukanye babibona, ese wowe ubibona ute?
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Uru ni urubuga rwo kunguraniraho ibitekerezo ku myororokere n'imibereho y'abantu b'ingeri zose ndetse tukanamenyeraho abantu bakoze udukoryo mu gihe turimo
dimanche 24 juillet 2011
vendredi 22 juillet 2011
Ibibazo 30 bya ngombwa ukwiye kwibaza ku mukunzi wawe (Igice cya I)
Hari ibintu byinshi ushobora gukorera umukunzi wawe akaba yabona ko koko umukunda urwuzuye cyangwa se umukunda urumamo nka bya bindi bya Ndebe na Mutimura (Ku basomye igitabo cyo mu wa kane primaire, murabyibuka).
Muri iyi nkuru tugiye kubagezaho uruhererekane rw’ibibazo 30, nuramuka usanze byose wabisubiza umukunzi wawe cyangwa undi muntu wese ubikubajije urukundo rwanyu ruraba rugeze heza, ariko nanone mu gihe hari ibyo utasubiza haraba kakirimo akabazo.
Kuba nkubwira ibi sinyobewe ko wowe n’umukunzi wawe mwaba mumaranye iminsi itari mike, ariko n’ubwo yaba ari mike cyane. Ubundi iminsi irindwi nyuma y’uko umwe yemereye undi urukundo (mbese musezeranye gukundana), uba ukwiye kumenya mugenzi wawe uwo ariwe !
Niba witeguye, ngaho kenyera tujyane muri iyi interview, ndagirango nkwibutse ko ibyo nkubaza bireba umukunzi wawe ! Kandi uko usubiza biragaragaza urukundo mufitanye.
Twagiye !!
1. Ni uruhe rugingo ukunda ku mukunzi wawe ?
2. Ni irihe jambo umukunzi wawe akunda kukubwira ?
3. Ubwo muheruka gusohokana umukuzi wawe yagusezeranyije iki ?
4. Umukunzi wawe akunda kurya iki ? Naho iyo anyweye neza anywa iki ?
5. Ni ikihe kintu uzi kibabaza umukunzi wawe ?
6. Naho se ni ikihe kimunezeza kurushaho ?
7. Iyo urebanye n’umukunzi wawe mu maso bigenda gute ? Wumva umerewe ute ?
8. Imana ikubwiye iti ’sabira umukunzi wawe ibintu 3 by’ingenzi’ wamusabira iki ?
9. Ni ikihe kintu cy’agaciro ukunda kiri mu cyumba cy’umukunzi wawe ?
10. Umukunzi wawe yambara kangahe mu nda ? Mu kirenge ? Naho se yambara impeta ingana ite ?
Ese ibi bibazo byose uko ari icumi urabisubije ? Cyangwa birakunaniye ? Usubije bingahe ? Unaniwe bingahe ?
Byumvikane neza, mu kukugezaho iyi nkuru sinari ngamije kukwemeza ko ukundana n’umukunzi wawe cyangwa mudakundana by’ukuri, ariko nanone byaba bibabaje nkubajije ngo ukunda nde ukambwira ngo “Nkunda Linda” cyangwa "nkunda Landry", ariko nakubaza ngo Linda/Landry akunda kurya iki ? Kwambara iki ? Gusohokera hehe ? n’ibindi bikakunanira neza neza.
Reka nibwire ko nyuma yo gusoma iyi nkuru ugiye kwihinga cyane ndetse ugakora iyo bwabaga kugirango umenye byimbitse umukunzi wawe.
Murakoze cyane ; uretse urubuga dusanzwe dukoresha ruri hano hepfo, dushobora no kungurana ibitekerezo dukoresheje email ya iranzinone@yahoo.fr
Muri iyi nkuru tugiye kubagezaho uruhererekane rw’ibibazo 30, nuramuka usanze byose wabisubiza umukunzi wawe cyangwa undi muntu wese ubikubajije urukundo rwanyu ruraba rugeze heza, ariko nanone mu gihe hari ibyo utasubiza haraba kakirimo akabazo.
Kuba nkubwira ibi sinyobewe ko wowe n’umukunzi wawe mwaba mumaranye iminsi itari mike, ariko n’ubwo yaba ari mike cyane. Ubundi iminsi irindwi nyuma y’uko umwe yemereye undi urukundo (mbese musezeranye gukundana), uba ukwiye kumenya mugenzi wawe uwo ariwe !
Niba witeguye, ngaho kenyera tujyane muri iyi interview, ndagirango nkwibutse ko ibyo nkubaza bireba umukunzi wawe ! Kandi uko usubiza biragaragaza urukundo mufitanye.
Twagiye !!
1. Ni uruhe rugingo ukunda ku mukunzi wawe ?
2. Ni irihe jambo umukunzi wawe akunda kukubwira ?
3. Ubwo muheruka gusohokana umukuzi wawe yagusezeranyije iki ?
4. Umukunzi wawe akunda kurya iki ? Naho iyo anyweye neza anywa iki ?
5. Ni ikihe kintu uzi kibabaza umukunzi wawe ?
6. Naho se ni ikihe kimunezeza kurushaho ?
7. Iyo urebanye n’umukunzi wawe mu maso bigenda gute ? Wumva umerewe ute ?
8. Imana ikubwiye iti ’sabira umukunzi wawe ibintu 3 by’ingenzi’ wamusabira iki ?
9. Ni ikihe kintu cy’agaciro ukunda kiri mu cyumba cy’umukunzi wawe ?
10. Umukunzi wawe yambara kangahe mu nda ? Mu kirenge ? Naho se yambara impeta ingana ite ?
Ese ibi bibazo byose uko ari icumi urabisubije ? Cyangwa birakunaniye ? Usubije bingahe ? Unaniwe bingahe ?
Byumvikane neza, mu kukugezaho iyi nkuru sinari ngamije kukwemeza ko ukundana n’umukunzi wawe cyangwa mudakundana by’ukuri, ariko nanone byaba bibabaje nkubajije ngo ukunda nde ukambwira ngo “Nkunda Linda” cyangwa "nkunda Landry", ariko nakubaza ngo Linda/Landry akunda kurya iki ? Kwambara iki ? Gusohokera hehe ? n’ibindi bikakunanira neza neza.
Reka nibwire ko nyuma yo gusoma iyi nkuru ugiye kwihinga cyane ndetse ugakora iyo bwabaga kugirango umenye byimbitse umukunzi wawe.
Murakoze cyane ; uretse urubuga dusanzwe dukoresha ruri hano hepfo, dushobora no kungurana ibitekerezo dukoresheje email ya iranzinone@yahoo.fr
lundi 18 juillet 2011
Telefone zigendanwa zishobora gutera kanseri ?
Itsinda ry’incabwenge n’abashakashatsi bamaze gutangaza ko telefoni zigendanwa zishobora guteza kanseri ku kigero kimwe n’umuti wica udukoko wa DDT uba waciwe ku masoko.
Izi mpuguke kandi telefone zigendanwa zifite ingaruka ku muntu nk’iz’ibyotsi bisohorwa n’imashini (CO2) ndetse n’ikawa.
Impuguke zo mu kigo mpuzamahanga gishinzwe gukora ubushakashatsi kuri kanseri (International Agency for Research on Cancer) zatangaje ubu bushakashatsi kuri uyu wa kabiri i Lyon mu Bufaransa. Iki kigo ni agashami k’umuryango ushinzwe ubuzima ku isi (OMS), ubu kikaba kigiye kohereza ubu bushakashatsi muri uyu muryango kugira ngo hafatwe ingamba.
Ubu bushakashatsi bwatangajwe nyuma ‘yo gusuzumana ubushishozi’ ubushakashatsi butandukanye bwakozwe n’abahanga mu myaka yashize.
Ikinyamakuru The Washington Post cyandika ko kuba bivugwa ko telefone ngendanwa zishobora gutera kanseri bitavuze ko bihita biyitera. Abahanga ngo bemeza ko ibi bidakwiye guhangayikisha abatuye isi ngo bitume bahita bahagarika gukoresha telefone.
Nyuma y’inama yamaze icyumweru, impuguke zo mu kigo mpuzamahanga gikora ubushakashatsi kuri kanseri zatangaje ko zifite ibimenyetso bike by’uko ikoreshwa rya telefoni zigendanwa zishobora guteza ubwoko bubiri bwa kanseri zo mu bwonko (zitatangajwe) ariko ngo nta bimenyetso simusiga by’uko hari izindi kanseri zaba ziterwa na telefone.
« Twabonye ibimenyetso bimwe bitwereka uko kanseri ishobora kuvuka ariko nanone ntabwo turabasha kubona ibimenyetso simusiga byose kandi haracyariho gushidikanya », niko Jonathan Samer wari uyoboye iyi nama yabwiye The Washington Post.
Ed Yong wo mu kigo cy’ubushakashatsi kuri Kanseri mu Bwongereza we yagize ati : « Umuryango mpuzamahanga wita ku buzima nturagaragaza ibimenyetso bifatika by’uko gukoresha telefoni zigendanwa byateza kanseri. Ariko n’iyo byaba bishoboka, byaba ari ibintu biba gake ».
Umwaka ushize, ubushakashatsi bwakozwe ntibwabashije kwerekana neza ihuriro ryo gukoresha telefone no kurwara kanseri. Gusa bamwe mu bahanga bavuga ko ubu bushakashatsi bugomba gutera amakenga kuko bwerekanye ko ibi ari ibintu bishoboka.
Mu bundi bushakashatsi busaga 30 bwakozwe mu myaka yashize mu Burayi, Amerika na Nouvelle Zelande ntabwo abashakashatsi babashije kwerekana neza uko telefoni ishobora guteza kanseri.
Gusa, kubera ko ikoreshwa rya telefoni zigendanwa rigenda ryiyongera ku isi, biragoye ko abashakashatsi babasha kwerekana ko bamwe mu barwayi ba Kanseri baba barabitewe no gukoresha telefone.
Kubera ko hari kanseri zimwe na zimwe zifata igihe kirekire kugira ngo zigaragare, abahanga bemeza ko bigoranye kwemeza ko nta ngaruka telefone zigira kubazikoresha.
Abashakashatsi bavuga ko byaba byiza abakoresha amatelefoni bagiye bifashisha ‘ecouteurs’ (headphones) zo mu matwi kugira ngo bikingire.
Inkuru dukesha igitondo.com
Izi mpuguke kandi telefone zigendanwa zifite ingaruka ku muntu nk’iz’ibyotsi bisohorwa n’imashini (CO2) ndetse n’ikawa.
Impuguke zo mu kigo mpuzamahanga gishinzwe gukora ubushakashatsi kuri kanseri (International Agency for Research on Cancer) zatangaje ubu bushakashatsi kuri uyu wa kabiri i Lyon mu Bufaransa. Iki kigo ni agashami k’umuryango ushinzwe ubuzima ku isi (OMS), ubu kikaba kigiye kohereza ubu bushakashatsi muri uyu muryango kugira ngo hafatwe ingamba.
Ubu bushakashatsi bwatangajwe nyuma ‘yo gusuzumana ubushishozi’ ubushakashatsi butandukanye bwakozwe n’abahanga mu myaka yashize.
Ikinyamakuru The Washington Post cyandika ko kuba bivugwa ko telefone ngendanwa zishobora gutera kanseri bitavuze ko bihita biyitera. Abahanga ngo bemeza ko ibi bidakwiye guhangayikisha abatuye isi ngo bitume bahita bahagarika gukoresha telefone.
Nyuma y’inama yamaze icyumweru, impuguke zo mu kigo mpuzamahanga gikora ubushakashatsi kuri kanseri zatangaje ko zifite ibimenyetso bike by’uko ikoreshwa rya telefoni zigendanwa zishobora guteza ubwoko bubiri bwa kanseri zo mu bwonko (zitatangajwe) ariko ngo nta bimenyetso simusiga by’uko hari izindi kanseri zaba ziterwa na telefone.
« Twabonye ibimenyetso bimwe bitwereka uko kanseri ishobora kuvuka ariko nanone ntabwo turabasha kubona ibimenyetso simusiga byose kandi haracyariho gushidikanya », niko Jonathan Samer wari uyoboye iyi nama yabwiye The Washington Post.
Ed Yong wo mu kigo cy’ubushakashatsi kuri Kanseri mu Bwongereza we yagize ati : « Umuryango mpuzamahanga wita ku buzima nturagaragaza ibimenyetso bifatika by’uko gukoresha telefoni zigendanwa byateza kanseri. Ariko n’iyo byaba bishoboka, byaba ari ibintu biba gake ».
Umwaka ushize, ubushakashatsi bwakozwe ntibwabashije kwerekana neza ihuriro ryo gukoresha telefone no kurwara kanseri. Gusa bamwe mu bahanga bavuga ko ubu bushakashatsi bugomba gutera amakenga kuko bwerekanye ko ibi ari ibintu bishoboka.
Mu bundi bushakashatsi busaga 30 bwakozwe mu myaka yashize mu Burayi, Amerika na Nouvelle Zelande ntabwo abashakashatsi babashije kwerekana neza uko telefoni ishobora guteza kanseri.
Gusa, kubera ko ikoreshwa rya telefoni zigendanwa rigenda ryiyongera ku isi, biragoye ko abashakashatsi babasha kwerekana ko bamwe mu barwayi ba Kanseri baba barabitewe no gukoresha telefone.
Kubera ko hari kanseri zimwe na zimwe zifata igihe kirekire kugira ngo zigaragare, abahanga bemeza ko bigoranye kwemeza ko nta ngaruka telefone zigira kubazikoresha.
Abashakashatsi bavuga ko byaba byiza abakoresha amatelefoni bagiye bifashisha ‘ecouteurs’ (headphones) zo mu matwi kugira ngo bikingire.
Inkuru dukesha igitondo.com
Wagira uti"ntibibaho"
Ubukwe budasanzwe I Ngoma: Icupa ryisatuyemo kabiri rijya gutema umusore wasabaga umugeni
Tuesday 5 July 2011
Kuri uyu wa gatandatu ku isaha ya saa saba n’igice z’amanywa i Burasirazuba mu karere ka Ngoma umurenge wa Kibungo akagari ka Karenge mu mudugudu wa Musamvu habaye ubukwe budasanzwe bwateye uwari uhibereye wese kwibaza byinshi.
Wakwibaza uti ese ubwo bukwe bwagenze bute?
Umusore yavuye I Rwamagana ajya gusaba no gukwa umugeni we mu murennge wa Kibungo, umudugudu ni Musamvu ahageze imisango y’ubukwe iratangira ,barasaba, umugeni baramwemererwa. Igihe cyo kumuhabwa kigeze nyamuhungu yagiye kwicara mu byicaro by’abakwe. Acyicara, intebe iba iramuzamuye mu birere imwesa hasi, imurenza umukingo wari hafi aho. Abari bahari babifashe nk’ibisanzwe, baraseka mbese nk’aho intebe yari iteretse nabi igahirima. Bamwe bahise bihutira kumubyutsa, bamugarura mu byicaro ategereje umugeni we.
Hashize akanya, bamuzaniye icyo kunywa cyo mu bwoko bwa fiesta (fanta). Twagiye kubona tubona icupa rihereye ku munwa waryo ryisatura rigera ku ndiba yaryo! Igisate kimwe cyaragiye gikata umukwe ku bibero hafi y’igitsina. Bahise bihutana uwo musore kwa muganga abaganga baramudoda. Icyateye agahinda ariko ni uko abo mu muryango w’umukobwa bakomeje bakinywera, bakarya ntakibazo mu gihe abo mu muryango w’umuhungu bo bariraga bamwe, abandi bahiye ubwoba ndetse bamwe bahita bitahira ubukwe butarangiye.
Gusa nyamusore we yanze kuvirira kuko yaje kugaruka mu masaha y’igicamunsi gusoza ibirori kugira ngo ahabwe umugeni we
Tubikesha Justin Mbonimpaye, umusomyi n’umukunzi w’Igitondo.com
Intara y’u Burasirazuba
Tuesday 5 July 2011
Kuri uyu wa gatandatu ku isaha ya saa saba n’igice z’amanywa i Burasirazuba mu karere ka Ngoma umurenge wa Kibungo akagari ka Karenge mu mudugudu wa Musamvu habaye ubukwe budasanzwe bwateye uwari uhibereye wese kwibaza byinshi.
Wakwibaza uti ese ubwo bukwe bwagenze bute?
Umusore yavuye I Rwamagana ajya gusaba no gukwa umugeni we mu murennge wa Kibungo, umudugudu ni Musamvu ahageze imisango y’ubukwe iratangira ,barasaba, umugeni baramwemererwa. Igihe cyo kumuhabwa kigeze nyamuhungu yagiye kwicara mu byicaro by’abakwe. Acyicara, intebe iba iramuzamuye mu birere imwesa hasi, imurenza umukingo wari hafi aho. Abari bahari babifashe nk’ibisanzwe, baraseka mbese nk’aho intebe yari iteretse nabi igahirima. Bamwe bahise bihutira kumubyutsa, bamugarura mu byicaro ategereje umugeni we.
Hashize akanya, bamuzaniye icyo kunywa cyo mu bwoko bwa fiesta (fanta). Twagiye kubona tubona icupa rihereye ku munwa waryo ryisatura rigera ku ndiba yaryo! Igisate kimwe cyaragiye gikata umukwe ku bibero hafi y’igitsina. Bahise bihutana uwo musore kwa muganga abaganga baramudoda. Icyateye agahinda ariko ni uko abo mu muryango w’umukobwa bakomeje bakinywera, bakarya ntakibazo mu gihe abo mu muryango w’umuhungu bo bariraga bamwe, abandi bahiye ubwoba ndetse bamwe bahita bitahira ubukwe butarangiye.
Gusa nyamusore we yanze kuvirira kuko yaje kugaruka mu masaha y’igicamunsi gusoza ibirori kugira ngo ahabwe umugeni we
Tubikesha Justin Mbonimpaye, umusomyi n’umukunzi w’Igitondo.com
Intara y’u Burasirazuba
Usohokanye bwa mbere n’umukobwa mukundana wakwitwara ute?
Hari gihe ushobora kuba uri umusore mwiza ariko ikintu cyo gutereta cyarakwihishe ndetse utajya unamenya uburyo wakwitwara mu gihe wasohokanye inkumi. Ugasanga niba umusohakanye rimwe ntazemere ko musubirayo kubera uburyo wabyitwayemo. Muri iyi nkuru uraza kubona bumwe mu buryo bwa gufasha kwitwara neza igihe wasohokanye umukobwa maze ukamusigira inyota yo guhora ashaka kuganira nawe no gusohokana nawe.
1. Ugomba kureka umukobwa akihitiramo ahantu ashaka gusohokera
Ni byiza ko mu gihe ugiye gusohokana umukobwa bwa mbere umuha amahirwe cyangwa se umwanya wo kwihitiramo ahantu heza yumva haza kumunyura mu gihe muba muri kuganira. Nutamuha umwanya rero ngo nawe yihitiremo aho ashaka, ashobora kutanyurwa dore ko ngo abagore cyangwa abakobwa baba bazi guhitamo ahantu hari buze gutuma baryoherwa n’ikiganiro. Urumva ko utabikoze intambwe ya mbere yaba yamaze kugutsinda.
2. Mu gihe muganira mureke nawe agire icyo avuga
Hari abasore basohokana abakobwa bakiharira ijambo nkaho barimo gutanga isomo cyangwa ikiganiro. Ibi sibyo kandi si byiza, habe na mba. Niba wa sohokanye umukobwa urimo gutereta ugomba kugerageza nawe ukamuha umwanya mu kiganiro akumva ko muri kumwe. Mu gihe bitabaye ibyo uzatuma arambirwa vuba ndetse n’ibyo urimo kuvuga nta gaciro azabiha.
3 . Ugomba kumuhanga amaso
Abasore benshi ntibazi kureba mu maso h’abakobwa batereta cyangwa barimo gutereta. Usanga ahubwo barimo guhuzagurika bareba hirya no hino aho kureba uwo bari kumwe. Menya ko uri mu ntangiriro zo gutereta umukobwa ntaragukunda neza icyongeyeho ni nabwo bwa mbere umusohokanye, ubwo rero nutangira ku mwereka ikinyabupfura gike no guhuzagurika utamureba mu maso azatangira kubona ko nta kigenda cyawe.
Ugomba kumwereka ko umwanya wose ari uwe , umureba umwitegereza , umusekeramo gake , umuganiriza, ukirinda kwitaba amatelefone ya buri kanya no kuyikandagura nk’aho utazi icyakuzanye. Ikindi irinde guhaguruka buri kanya no guhuragura amagambo cyangwa se ngo uvuge ibintu biterekeranye.
4. Mubaze ikintu ari bufate
Niba mugeze ahantu mwasohokeye nko muri hoteli, akabari cyangwa se ahantu hari ubusitani bwiza reka umukobwa yisabire icyo ashaka aho gutangira kumusabira icyo afata. Ni byo koko ushobora kuba wumva ibyo umusabiye biryoshye cyangwa ari byo abantu benshi bakunda, ariko menya ko hari igihe wabikora gutyo ugasanga we ntabikunda na gato kandi kubera ko ari bwo bwa mbere mu sohokanye ashobora kugira isoni zo kuvugako ibyumusabiye atabikunda. Ugomba kumureka rero akihitiramo ikintu ashaka yaba icyo kunywa cyangwa kurya kuko burya niwe uba azi icyo akunda na cyane ko wowe uba utaramenya ibyo akunda n’ibyo yanga.
5. Gerageza umuhindurire mu biganiro
Nta mpamvu yo kwibanda ku kintu kimwe mu gihe urimo kuganiriza umuntu. Shaka ingingo zitandukanye umuganirizaho. Ikindi kandi nta ni mpamvu yo gutinda ku kintu keretse iyo ubona icyo kiganiro cyamuryohoye. Aha ubibwirwa n’uko urimo kumureba mu maso, ukamenya uburyo arimo kwakira ibyo umubwira. Si byiza rero kumureka ngo abanze arambirwe ibyo urimo kuvuga.
Niba mwamaze kwibwirana nta mpamvu yo gukomeza kwivugaho uvuga ibigwi byawe. Ushobora kuba uri umugabo w’ibikorwa ariko si ngombwa ko ubimubwirira rimwe ku munsi wa mbere ashobora gutaha atekerezako washatse kumwiyemeraho no kumwereka ko ukomeye; mbese ko washatse “kumwemeza” kandi ibi si byiza na gato.
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1. Ugomba kureka umukobwa akihitiramo ahantu ashaka gusohokera
Ni byiza ko mu gihe ugiye gusohokana umukobwa bwa mbere umuha amahirwe cyangwa se umwanya wo kwihitiramo ahantu heza yumva haza kumunyura mu gihe muba muri kuganira. Nutamuha umwanya rero ngo nawe yihitiremo aho ashaka, ashobora kutanyurwa dore ko ngo abagore cyangwa abakobwa baba bazi guhitamo ahantu hari buze gutuma baryoherwa n’ikiganiro. Urumva ko utabikoze intambwe ya mbere yaba yamaze kugutsinda.
2. Mu gihe muganira mureke nawe agire icyo avuga
Hari abasore basohokana abakobwa bakiharira ijambo nkaho barimo gutanga isomo cyangwa ikiganiro. Ibi sibyo kandi si byiza, habe na mba. Niba wa sohokanye umukobwa urimo gutereta ugomba kugerageza nawe ukamuha umwanya mu kiganiro akumva ko muri kumwe. Mu gihe bitabaye ibyo uzatuma arambirwa vuba ndetse n’ibyo urimo kuvuga nta gaciro azabiha.
3 . Ugomba kumuhanga amaso
Abasore benshi ntibazi kureba mu maso h’abakobwa batereta cyangwa barimo gutereta. Usanga ahubwo barimo guhuzagurika bareba hirya no hino aho kureba uwo bari kumwe. Menya ko uri mu ntangiriro zo gutereta umukobwa ntaragukunda neza icyongeyeho ni nabwo bwa mbere umusohokanye, ubwo rero nutangira ku mwereka ikinyabupfura gike no guhuzagurika utamureba mu maso azatangira kubona ko nta kigenda cyawe.
Ugomba kumwereka ko umwanya wose ari uwe , umureba umwitegereza , umusekeramo gake , umuganiriza, ukirinda kwitaba amatelefone ya buri kanya no kuyikandagura nk’aho utazi icyakuzanye. Ikindi irinde guhaguruka buri kanya no guhuragura amagambo cyangwa se ngo uvuge ibintu biterekeranye.
4. Mubaze ikintu ari bufate
Niba mugeze ahantu mwasohokeye nko muri hoteli, akabari cyangwa se ahantu hari ubusitani bwiza reka umukobwa yisabire icyo ashaka aho gutangira kumusabira icyo afata. Ni byo koko ushobora kuba wumva ibyo umusabiye biryoshye cyangwa ari byo abantu benshi bakunda, ariko menya ko hari igihe wabikora gutyo ugasanga we ntabikunda na gato kandi kubera ko ari bwo bwa mbere mu sohokanye ashobora kugira isoni zo kuvugako ibyumusabiye atabikunda. Ugomba kumureka rero akihitiramo ikintu ashaka yaba icyo kunywa cyangwa kurya kuko burya niwe uba azi icyo akunda na cyane ko wowe uba utaramenya ibyo akunda n’ibyo yanga.
5. Gerageza umuhindurire mu biganiro
Nta mpamvu yo kwibanda ku kintu kimwe mu gihe urimo kuganiriza umuntu. Shaka ingingo zitandukanye umuganirizaho. Ikindi kandi nta ni mpamvu yo gutinda ku kintu keretse iyo ubona icyo kiganiro cyamuryohoye. Aha ubibwirwa n’uko urimo kumureba mu maso, ukamenya uburyo arimo kwakira ibyo umubwira. Si byiza rero kumureka ngo abanze arambirwe ibyo urimo kuvuga.
Niba mwamaze kwibwirana nta mpamvu yo gukomeza kwivugaho uvuga ibigwi byawe. Ushobora kuba uri umugabo w’ibikorwa ariko si ngombwa ko ubimubwirira rimwe ku munsi wa mbere ashobora gutaha atekerezako washatse kumwiyemeraho no kumwereka ko ukomeye; mbese ko washatse “kumwemeza” kandi ibi si byiza na gato.
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